5 Essential Tips After Losing Your Job…

Before I share some of my tips on what do do after a job loss, I thought I would share my story…

I knew it was coming. Over the course of a few months, Warner Bros was downsizing departments. It was a matter of time before it hit my team. Then one day, the HR meeting invite appeared on my calendar. I had tried to mentally brace myself, convinced I was prepared for the inevitable. But when the moment arrived, no amount of preparation softened the blow. Instantly, I got a pit in my stomach, and I texted my husband…”It’s happening. Today is the day.” After talking to HR and the head of my department, they gave me the news that my role was being eliminated. It felt like a sudden shift in feelings, an unexpected breakup where my loyalty and dedication were no longer reciprocated. Questions swirled relentlessly, 'Why me? Why pick the employee with a family?' I grappled with self-doubt, wondering if I could have altered the course somehow. Yet, one truth emerged amidst the chaos—I couldn't have changed the outcome. It wasn't about me or my efforts; it was the beyond my control. Accepting this fact was pivotal and realizing that sometimes, despite our best efforts, certain things simply couldn't have been avoided.

My job wasn’t just a profession, it was a part of my identity. Without it, I felt lost. I may still be on my journey to finding what the next big move is for me.. But through that challenging period, I've discovered valuable lessons. These insights, born from my own journey of resilience, might help smooth the path for anyone else facing this upheaval. Here's what I learned, and I hope it helps you sidestep some of the emotional turmoil that often accompanies losing a job

1.) Be kind to yourself…

Give yourself permission to experience the full spectrum of emotions. Losing a job is a major lifestyle change, and it's natural to feel a whirlwind of emotions—anger, hurt, sadness, even moments of feeling lost or uncertainty. I vividly remember that initial defense mode kicking in—I rushed to connect with my network, firing off applications almost impulsively. Proofreading? Barely happened; coherence might have been optional. In hindsight, I realized the importance of hitting pause. I wish I had given myself a moment to breathe. So, my advice to you is this: save those intriguing job posts, let those emotions flow, and don't rush. Take a beat, a day, or even cry if you need to. It's crucial to process and absorb the news before diving headfirst back into applications. Trust me; the clarity that comes from a moment's pause can make a world of difference in your next steps.

2.) Talk about it

As I said earlier, my job was a big part of my identity so, when it was abruptly taken away, I found myself adrift, struggling to redefine who I was without it. If you aren’t careful, your emotions can really spiral out of control. Fortunately, I'm incredibly blessed to have an amazing circle of family and friends who rallied around me during this tough time. I soaked in all the hugs and support they offered, finding solace in their presence. In fact, one of my besties showed up with not one but three bottles of wine, a gesture that truly lifted my spirits. Find someone who can help you get out of your little hole and call a lifeline. Whether that be family, friends, or a therapist. Lighten your load by talking out loud and avoid holding those feelings inside.

3.) Tap into your Network…and your network’s network

Once you’ve taken some time to digest this new change, the job hunt begins. Update your resume (if you haven’t already) and set up profiles on multiple job sites. Linkedin, Monster, Indeed, and perhaps even recruiter sites. This is great because you can get emails notifying you of a job in your field that you can easily apply for. Cold message folks if you can see the hiring manager/recruiter on Linkedin, but keep it short and sweet. Additionally, leverage your network and your network’s network; if you notice a job opening at a company where an acquaintance works, don't hesitate to ask for a referral link. Surprisingly, many are willing to assist, especially if it could benefit them through a referral bonus. It's a win-win scenario—a helping hand for you and a potential reward for them. I’ve gotten nearly all my interviews this way. I’ve also had old friends and colleagues step up to help me, and forever I will be grateful. And one day, if they are ever in the same place that I was, I will return the favor.

4.) Do something for yourself that brings you joy

As I said before, you go through a roller coaster of emotions, so find something to do that makes you happy. Revisiting an old hobby, immersing yourself in music, or dedicating time to exercise can work wonders in grounding yourself. Personally, I've discovered mental clarity through exercise. I’ve been using the Kinrgy app. It’s a happy mix of dance cardio with a spiritual experience that leaves me feeling centered. Find that one thing that brings you pure joy daily and embrace it—it's a small, powerful step toward nurturing your well-being.

5.) Stay Positive & Keep Hustling

Brace yourself, there is a lot of waiting and a lot rejection. I’ve gotten hundreds of automated rejection emails, and only a handful of interviews. Even through these interviews, I feel like I’m entering a relationship… “Do they like me?” “Will I get a second date out of this?” Really, it feels like a dating game. However, amidst this whirlwind of uncertainty and the inevitable 'no's, it's crucial to hold onto your self-worth. Remind yourself, amidst every rejection, of your incredible value. You're a gem, and any employer would be fortunate to have someone as talented as you on their team. There's a perfect fit out there for you, a role that aligns seamlessly with your skills and aspirations. You WILL find something that better suits you, and once you do… You'll look back and understand why each rejection was a stepping stone toward something better, something that truly fits like a glove.

My days now overflow with moments devoted to family and quality time with my kids, dedicated job hunting, prioritizing exercise for both physical and mental well-being, and managing household chores and meals. I've even jumped into volunteering for my son's Parent-Teacher Organization, and made some new mom friends. Each day, I navigate one step at a time, recognizing the importance of pacing myself.

Remember, in the midst of this transition, something wonderful, something that aligns perfectly with your path is on the horizon. Keep pushing forward, one day at a time. You've got this!